Change Can Be Good

In life, we go through many stages and in those stages we are sometimes faced with changes. Changes that alter us in a different path. Changes that shake up our life. Changes that shake up our emotions. I recently have gone through two major changes in my life. First of all, I moved cities. Second, my three-year relationship with my boyfriend ended. I moved cities so I am faced with the challenge of making new friends which I have never found easy to begin with. My relationship with my now ex-boyfriend ended on my behalf. I was the one who did the breaking up. Now it is not that I ever hated being in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend but to be fair I felt like I needed the space. I needed the space to figure out myself more and to explore life more. I honestly feel like I just needed the space to grow. It was not fair to be in a relationship when I know I am not giving that special someone the best version of myself. So that is what exactly what I am doing. I am making myself the best version that I can be. I am working on truly loving myself. I am working on getting that fit and toned body I always wanted so I can finally wear nice form fitting dresses and crop tops! lol

I owe it to myself to explore and grow. I owe it to myself to blossom. I owe it to myself to figure out what I really want in life. I owe it to myself to become my best version.

I am taking these two major changes and making them out to be the best part of my success story. I will turn these changes into something positive.

I am endlessly blossoming.



P.S. For those going through a tough break-up, just remember "Don't cry because it's over, smile that it happened." I know it is so cliche but it honestly is so true. It is way better to have had that wonderful experience of being loved and loving than to have not had it. I truly am so thankful and appreciative of the time I had with my ex. I learned so much from that relationship and I will forever be thankful for that relationship. My ex and I were so young and in love, we were babies. All I know is that whatever happens, I wish him the best.
SO if you are going through a tough break-up use this time to work on you! Do whatever you want. Work on your hobby. Take up a new activity. Get out there and explore. Go see a comedy show. Take up a dancing class. Whatever you do, do not dwell too much on the past. You will get through this and you will come out of it as a better person.

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  1. Love your blog. Ask being young and in a long term relationship did you have any doubts, regrets, hate,jealousy of him moving on? how was the relationship after the break up? As for being new to a new city how was it from then to now? did you make friends, or what have you done living this new life, what accomplishments do you have for yourself future? Have you dated new people, if so how was that like, or if in a relationship now how is it different. Have you ever felt jealously over someone or hatred? As for self love i think it is very important to love yourself but we women always carry insecurities, what are yours? would you change anything meaning moving, friendships, relationships, situations that would have had a better turn out but didn't. How do you describe yourself.

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    1. Thank you! As for being young and in a long term relationship, I did have doubts of moving on but I honestly think our relationship had reached its end. The relationship after the break up was good, really good actually we still remained friends. As for being in a new city, I finally feel grounded and am getting settled after two tumultuous years of living here lol. I have made a some friends, I have in general met some amazing wonderful people here. As for accomplishments for my future, I plan to get my associates degree. I have dated people. Actually when I first got here, I started dating someone and that someone was a complete douchebag lol but the silver lining out of that relationship was I learned a lot and it ended up making me stronger. It is very important for us women to love ourselves completely. I do have my times where I get insecurities but overall my love for myself overshadows any ounce of insecurity I have. If I could change anything, it would be taking some time off from school when I first arrived to this new city.

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  2. It’s good to not only be a healthy relationship but end it in a healthy way. I also went through a break up but it was toxic and it ended bad, I also dated and that person was a nice person but I felt like he never showed too much interested and once was stopped talking I found out he started dating someone else right away, and now they are still together and moving in from what I’ve heard and I’m happy for him but it just made me not want to date for a while. So how was he a douchbag if you don’t mind me asking lol did you date after that. Education is the key to a lot of things what’s yours major.

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